Bihari is not slang. Which State of the country doesn’t have problems and issues to fix? So, why to blame Bihar and its people specifically? Calling them molesters, illiterates, sexual abusers, gender discriminators, and what not!
Sushant Singh Rajput’s father filed an FIR against Rhea Chakraborty, who was dating Shushant at the time of his death, and her family members for abetting his suicide. The FIR was lodged in Patna after Mumbai Police failed to do an unbiased probe in the late actor’s death case.
An article on Sushant’s ‘Bihari’ family is doing rounds on social media for all the wrong reasons. The article is racist in all sense and it’s shameful to see how irresponsible Indian media has become. Some of its offensive sentences are: “…toxic family structure of cow-belt India, especially Bihar, and how it treats its precious sons”; “…blaming a son’s big-city girlfriend for all that is wrong is how families cope with sons’ autonomy”; and “…the way the family has reacted says a lot about the burden of being a son in a Bihari family”.
The journalist, Jyoti Yadav doesn’t stop here and she goes on by using sloppy and sarcastic tone in her article, targeting Biharis more directly. First by this subhead, “The son is always a kid — mera laadla” and then the content under it read, “The actor’s father even said that until he met Rhea Chakraborty, Sushant had no mental health problems. And that his career was flourishing until Rhea walked into Sushant singh rajput life, and that she even conspired to take away his savings. Such families have only one view of their son — he is never depressed, never makes mistakes, never gets bullied, and never marries outside the family’s choice.”
These quotes are just one percent of the article; the rest of the article is more toxic and racist. It seems, the journalist has some personal grudges with Bihari people and chooses a national platform to express her opinion by taking Sushant Sushant Singh Rajput’s case in context. As she writes: “This whole episode reminds me of a friend from my college days. He often used to counsel his mother, who lived in a remote district in Bihar, because she felt that her new daughter-in-law was trying to take her son (my friend’s brother) away from her. My friend could never convince his mother that it’s just that his brother’s priorities have changed in life after getting married.” Well, it proves, she is generalizing Bihari people with all the little knowledge she has about them.
So, just to clear the bubbles around this journalist’s perception about Biharis, we have counter-statement for most of her allegations.
First allegation: “A grown up man is always a kid/baby of these families. His independent choices are frowned down upon, especially if it concerns marriage. If he goes against the family’s traditional decision-making, either his friends’ circles or his girlfriend or wives get blamed. There is hardly any talk about mental health in these families…”
Ms. Jyoti, the late actor Sushant’s family was well-aware of his choices. They never stopped him from living a life he wanted to live. He dated Ankita Lokhande for more than six years and everyone knew about their relationship. Yes, they loved him like a kid but that doesn’t make him less of a man. They never stopped him from making his own mistakes. If such wasn’t the case, Ankita would have lost touch to his family members after they broke up but she still talks to them.
Second Allegation: “The familiar trope in Bihar is one of a guile-less son who loses his way because of an enchantress… There are many local songs in Bhojpuri that portray Bengali women as villains who trap Bihari men in their charm. They perform black magic on men.”
Ms. Jyoti, the fight is for justice for Sushant Singh Rajput whose death has become a mystery and not a conversation about anti-women. His family never called Rhea a witch or a woman who does black magic. Nor his family called out for all Bengali women as villains. This is what you are saying!
Third Allegation: “Sushant Singh Rajput’s sister posted a picture on Instagram and wrote that he was not suffering from depression… The fact that the family doesn’t want to accept that their son could have been depressed even after his death, shows how little they know about this issue.”
Ms. Jyoti, his sister never said he wasn’t depressed. And as his brother-in-law rightly points out “mental health is an outcome of biology and the environment”. He wrote that Rhea Chakraborty had created a ‘hostile environment’ for him, which could include ‘gaslighting, blackmailing, alienating, covert medication, overt overmedication, and so on.’
The questions this journalist should ask herself are: Why none of his family members have a good relationship with Rhea Chakraborty? Why all Sushant’s old staff were removed? Why Shushant changed more than 50 mobile numbers in a week? Why none of the prior house staff of Shushant spoke well of Rhea?
And one more question, what is wrong in being a Shravan Kumar or an ideal son to the family? Why is it cringe-worthy for some people? Although, it’s true that many people judge women and call them home-wreckers in our country that doesn’t mean women don’t commit any crime. A crime is not confined to any particular gender. Also, father K.K. Singh has filed an FIR and he’d just have enough proves for all the allegations he has put on Rhea and others.
So, let’s just wait for the truth to come out because now the matter is with the CBI after Mumbai Police’s lukewarm approach to the investigation was criticized by Bihar Police, Supreme Court, Center, SSR’s fans and family.