What a shame!
The Bois Locker Room is the name of an Instagram chat group, which was created by schoolboys of Delhi for the sole purpose of sharing objectionable images of their classmates and senior girls. How easily have we accepted that boys will be boys, and the one who needs to change is the girls… How unacceptable things such as body shaming, objectifying, and passing lewd comments on women have been normalized in our society. What are we teaching to our boys?
One of the screenshots mentioning the gang-rape of a girl was not linked with the conversation in the Bois Locker Room group. Also, the conversation in the chat was between a girl, who created a fake account with the name of a boy, Siddharth, to see the reaction of the boy. Police said that the receiver (boy) refused to participate in the plan.
An FIR was filed against the members of the Bois Locker Room chat group by Delhi Police Cyber Cell under the IT act. A 15-year-old boy has been apprehended by the police and with his help twenty-one, other active members of the group have been identified. Most of the identified members are of Class 11 and 12.
Why this incident is scary?
The problem is that the ‘ Bois Locker Room ’ is only one of many chatroom groups on social media that is disrespecting women, slut-shaming them, glorifying rape, and morphing pictures. There would be many such chatrooms on social media that we don’t know about or aware of.
Every fourth rape victim in our country is a minor. Out of 33,300 rape cases reported in 2018, 30% of the victims are below the age of 18.
If educated young boys would create such disturbing groups on social media to harm females, then there is no way India can ever be safe for them.
If these educated young boys, who created the Bois Locker Room, are the future of our country, then there is no way India can ever be safe for women.
We think we don’t have any other choice than to laugh on body-shaming jokes, but we do have a choice. We can refuse to laugh. We can raise our voice against someone bragging about non-consensual sex.
We can refuse to be part of those groups where abusing women is considered as a matter of pride. We, as a responsible citizen of India, should take some action.
This is a matter of concern because now boys need to learn some etiquette, manners, and ethics too. Enough of patriarchy!
What we really need to teach our boys?
- Everyone deserves respect, regardless of their caste, creed, gender, and color.
- Always ask for consent before touching anyone. Physical intimacy happens with the consent of both partners.
- It is okay to let boys cry. Tears are not just a girl thing or a symbol of weakness. Tears are an expression of emotions.
- Manliness is not proved through violent acts, bullying, and dominance on others.
- Respect the decisions of others. Don’t force anyone to agree on your ideas, opinions, or decisions.
- Body shaming is an evil thing to do with anyone, male or female.
Precautions to take while uploading pictures on Social Media.
How safe are pictures of teenagers from pedophiles on social media? Once a picture is shared by a person on a social media platform, anyone can misuse or morph those pictures without their content. Although, it is unlawful and action might be taken if anyone files a complaint against it, but by that time, it would be too late.
So, what precaution one should take before uploading pictures on social media so that they don’t end up in the wrong hands.
- Check for personal information on the photos before uploading them. Make sure you aren’t showing the location, phone number, or any other essential details.
- Maintain a privacy setting on your pictures, modify them, and keep the check of who can see your photos.
- Ask your friend or family to delete your picture if you aren’t comfortable with that.
- Do your part. If you find any objectionable photos on your social media page, report it.
We are part of this society and we all need to contribute something better to this world. I think We should pledge to make our country a safer place for women. We should report or encourage others to report any type of sexual abuse. Let’s make a better world for all of us.